S1.E10. | Jeff Perera
The Faulty Ladder to Manhood
Episode 10 with Jeff Perera @jeffperera
Note:this episode was recorded in early May and therefore does not discuss the current Black Lives Matter movement. However, Jeff has powerful words that describe what is broken within the social conditioning of men and men of colour that contribute to the issues of today.
WE LEARN ABOUT:
2:00 Jeff is committed to overcoming toxic masculine conditioning. He demonstrates his practice right from the start
3:50 When the conditioning starts for men
5:20 Why men need to flex their emotional muscles
8:40 Why true strength comes from being vulnerable. What is the new measure of a man?
10:40 What gets in the way of men having honest vulnerable conversations
12:00 What is the ladder to manhood. How are men conditioned and what are the differences between men of different races
14:00 The false idea of manhood and why it’s no longer working
16:00 What is the emotional toolbox
17:30 The devaluing of women in today’s world
19:00 How can we support men in developing their emotional toolbox
23:10 The power of compassion in dissolving shame and gratitude for women
24:30 Is Jeff a feminist?
26:00 Jeff shares what motivates him. How racism affected his father
29:45 Jeff shares who inspires him
33:15 How do we raise our boys to be emotionally aware
37:30 How we can get past micro-aggressions and our own expectations around how a man should be?
40:00 Baby steps to changing this world
41:00 What is Jeff’s afterglow?